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Buffy The Vampire Slayer

Thank Goodness for Buffy The Vampire Slayer

We all have certain things that never fail to cheer us up, or at least help us to tolerate the less-than-perfect times. It is with a giggle I admit how often I have turned to Buffy in the last year.

One year ago I moved to my tiny apartment. Even with very little space, I decided to lug along my big, heavy TV with the built-in VCR and DVD players to put in my bedroom. As senseless as it may have seemed at the time, I have been grateful for it many times in the last year. Like when it took three appointments with three different technicians to get my cable and Internet running properly. As I was trying to settle in and find comfort in my new space I was able to turn to my “old technology” TV and pull out my Buffy the Vampire Slayer series DVDs. Ah…the clothes, the silliness, the witty writing…and the familiar characters…it was good to see them again. I didn’t feel so lonely and so lost.

A year later I was again having trouble with my cable and Internet; I’m up to Season Three now…and I’m grateful…again. I even told the customer service person on the phone about Buffy. When I couldn’t get a technician to come out for two days she said, “Well, I guess you’ll be watching Buffy again tonight!” And we laughed. I’ll bet she was grateful too… Buffy helped her not to have to deal with a frustrated customer.

And within that year I had a month and a half when my cable-connected living room TV was broken (it was the holidays…too much going on…then the TV repair man had to come out three times before he got the correct board to fix it). Buffy and my old TV kept me from feeling upset with things out of my control. After all, we have Buffy to protect us from the vampires and demons out to get us! 🙂

And when I had a horrible migraine, a terrible day at work, and sat in the waiting room for an appointment that had been changed to another day? Buffy and a bloody mary (get it?) was the redeeming ending to my day that allowed me to go to sleep with the confidence that the next day would be better.

You definitely wouldn’t call it binge watching as after one year I am only in Season Three, but I’m savoring it…every moment.

Tell me, readers, do you have a movie or TV show  you turn to in the “tough” times?



{November 6, 2013}   How NOT to Fail as a Blogger

Okay, I think we can all agree, “not failing” is not the same thing as “succeeding.” There are plenty of posts about how to succeed as a blogger (including this recent one)…and I don’t feel qualified to write another. If popular success is what you are looking for, this is not the place to find it. Why I am writing about “not failing”? I think I’m an expert at that, I’m not ashamed of it and I think a lot of discouraged bloggers could use the information.

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” Winston Churchill

I will admit that seeing the movie “Julie and Julia” and a fascination with the story of that author’s road to success was part of what got me started blogging. But I didn’t follow that road, and somehow along the way, success morphed into not failing, which morphed into a vision of success completely different from the one I started with. How so?

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”  Winston Churchill

I can honestly say that blogging sustained me and perhaps saved me during a difficult time in my life. I had lost all dreams, all joy, and did not know where to turn. Writing my blog gave me a (initially a very small) purpose, a motivation to look at my bleak life and find something interesting in it to write about. For the first year, the only feedback I received was in emails from friends and acquaintances who said they were enjoying reading it. This helped keep me going, gave me the little sustenance I needed to continue until I made friends, found a purpose, became part of the wonderful blogging community and felt at home there — no longer lost.

“There are three kinds of lies: lies, damn lies, and statistics.” Mark Twain OR Prime Minister Benjamin Disraeli. 

(I love that we don’t know who really came up with that quote)

“Facts are stubborn things, but statistics are pliable.” Mark Twain

After almost 4 years I have just over 300 followers. I’m sure that doesn’t sound like success to people who have managed to get thousands of followers in less than a year. I get that. But I’m grateful anyway. You have to go beneath the surface of the stats to understand why…what cynical people might call “spin-doctoring.” I have 300 followers, but I haven’t even written one year’s worth of posts! That means on average that every post I have written has touched at least one person! 

I write when I have time; I write when I think I have something to say. This is considered the “wrong” way to go about it; all the articles say that is not the way to attain blogging “success.” But I keep going. I enjoy it, It has become a very important element in my life. I have learned that I am not a quitter. I have not “succeeded” but I have not failed as a blogger and I’m proud of it. If you think that is the equivalent of every child getting a star on their paper, so be it. I like my star.

Versatile Blogger Award

My “Star” on My Paper

Take another look at your statistics and see what you see, feel what it makes you feel. Write on, my friends!



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